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Friday, January 31, 2014

The Outdoor Cure

My 15-month old got his first cold recently (First? Yes, I consider us lucky). My ordinarily cheerful, active, loving son became a wailing, clingy, unrecognizable mess in a matter of hours. He wouldn't sleep or eat; he didn't want to play; he intermittently wanted to cuddle but continued to wail while doing it. Spoiled by months of serenity, we parents were at a loss.

Finally, one Saturday my husband recommended a bath. My poor little guy had dried snot on his face and his hair was matted from restless nights peppered with eruptions of screaming and cuddle-requiring. I was hesitant because at this point in the cold EVERYTHING made him howl (Bottle?! I want to throw it in your face! Food? Are you out of your mind??? My stuffed dog? Get it away from me!). He fussed through bath time and afterward, desperate and exhausted, I took him outside.

My grandmother famously told her children that if they didn't feel good, the best cure was to get up and do something. I always thought this was her stock comeback to "I don't want to go to school," but in this case, she was 100% right. (Disclaimer: we are blessed not only to live in Arizona where going outside sick is an option in January, but we also have a killer back yard.)

 
I don't know if it was the change of scenery, the ample running-around space, or some miraculous, seemingly instantaneous injection of Vitamin D that made my little guy feel better, but the wailing stopped, and he was happy.

We spent a good hour and a half out back while he tossed balls around, rode his trike, and played with the dog without so much as a whimper. When we brought him in, of course, it was a different story (Tylenol, cuddling, Vick's Vaporub). But it made him happy for a brief time while he was really sick, and I'm glad.

Now whenever he has an "off" day and all else fails, I take him into the back yard. Jacket, sunhat - whatever the situation requires - "getting up and doing something," as my grandmother suggested, seems to be a cure-all.

Not everyone is blessed with a great, safe back yard and year-long decent weather, but when he was a few months old and couldn't be calmed, a walk around the block in his stroller worked too. If you have to suit up your little guy or gal in snow pants and a parka, they'll still feel the sun on their faces. And for whatever reason, it worked for us and I hope it does for you too.

Thursday, January 30, 2014

Nighttime for Toddlers (As Best I Know)


Here are two juxtaposed photos of my toddler (15 months) on a not-so-good night. After stand-up crying* for 10-15 minutes and throwing his lovey defiantly onto the floor, he actually fell asleep leaning on the side of the crib and ultimately readjusted to the more appropriate (and comfortable) position seen below the first picture.

As a conscientious parent, you have probably read that for babies, routine is EVERYTHING. Every night after my son eats, I change him into his PJs while audibly mentioning the impending "night-night." I let him turn off all the lights around his bedroom (he would turn them off and on all day and night if I let him), and we read a story. Then we turn on his (fabulous - get one here - just do it) white noise machine/projector, he turns off his bedroom light, and by the time I reach the last verse of his bedtime song he is already reaching longingly for his crib. This starts at 7:30 PM on the dot (most of the time; I'm only human) and he never puts up a fuss.

Tonight, we put a wrench in things. Not only did my husband come home early (he is usually in school until after bedtime), but he also brought a friend with him. This excited and confused my son. Dad was home (WOW!) and there was an intriguing new stranger to stare at/play with/talk to/and, again, play with.

Although I urged Johnny to say "Night-night" to his dad and the intriguing stranger, his routine was disrupted. And because I stopped to exchange pleasantries with the intriguing stranger, it was going on 8:00 before we started our routine. Not to mention, Dad and stranger were still in the house, presumably doing super-exciting things while I was sadistically trying to force my son to leave the fun and go night-night!

The combination of him being over-tired and the presumed excitement going on downstairs was enough to make my son "stand-up cry" for a long time (rough for everyone, especially the single stranger with no kids trying to enjoy some adult interaction).

In conclusion, you can't control everything. Life is crazy: routines get disrupted; naps sometimes don't do the trick and children become over-tired; intriguing strangers stop by unexpectedly. However, if you can maintain a pretty predictable structure for your child, nighttime will be much easier on everyone. Don't believe me? Consult the experts (as far as I'm concerned).

Good night, and good luck!


*As previously discussed, "stand-up crying" in the crib usually means, Forget it, I'm not going to sleep so you better get in here and make it better or lose all hope. "Sit-down" or "lay-down" crying just means I'm so tired I have no idea what's going on but here's a comfy place to lay down and I will probably do just that in a few minutes.

100 Happy Days

I am always looking for ways to stay positive and feel better, so when I saw this project I decided I had to try it. (Don't get me wrong: I spent a whole Sunday debating about it because honestly, it's kind of a big commitment when your free time usually = brushing your teeth before bed.)*

http://100happydays.com/

I'm enjoying this project for several reasons. One: I know I will be able to look back on a bunch of happy memories because I committed to posting them on Facebook. Two: I notice things in a different way when I have to document them. (Ordinarily I might not pay much attention when my husband does some small, nice thing, but if I stop, take a picture, and post it, I will.) Three: I am constantly looking for reasons to be happy, because I know I have to produce a picture by the day's end! And looking for reasons to be happy kind of makes me feel happier in general!

Click on the picture to see Day 22:


Check out my ongoing efforts here: #100happydays


*When I make comments about being busy or having very little free time, I am rarely complaining. Everyone is busy. Talking about my busy schedule is just context, unless I admit I am complaining... which I promise I will always do.

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